Christmas can be a magical time for families, full of twinkly lights, traditions and togetherness. But for parents and carers of babies, the festive season can also feel long, tiring and overwhelming — especially when routines change and sleep is in short supply.
That’s why ICON: Babies Cry, You Can Cope is sharing an important reminder this Christmas: crying is normal, and support is always available.
When Christmas feels like too much
The festive period often brings added pressures — late nights, busy social plans, family expectations and financial worries. While adults feel the strain, babies don’t understand Christmas schedules. They may cry more when routines are disrupted, when they’re overstimulated, or when the people around them are feeling tired and stressed.
This can make parents feel anxious, frustrated or guilty — but these feelings are common and nothing to be ashamed of.
Dr Suzanne Smith, nurse, health visitor and founder of ICON, explains:
“Christmas is meant to be joyful, but for parents of babies it can be exhausting and emotionally intense. There’s pressure to make memories, keep everyone happy and hold things together — all while running on very little sleep. A crying baby can add to the pressure, and that’s not anybody’s fault.”
Pause, breathe, and ask for help
ICON encourages parents and carers to remember one simple but powerful message during moments of stress: pause.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your baby’s crying, the safest thing you can do is place your baby down in a safe place and take a few moments to calm yourself. Even a short pause can help you return feeling more settled and able to cope.
“If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take it as a cue to pause and seek support,” says Dr Smith. “Put your baby somewhere safe and take a moment to calm yourself, just for a few minutes.”
Planning ahead can make a difference
During the festive period, small steps can really help:
- Share the load where possible
- Talk openly about how you’re feeling
- Keep expectations realistic
- Take breaks when you can
- Look at your crying plan and remind yourself what helps you cope
Most importantly, remember that you don’t have to do everything perfectly. Your wellbeing matters too.
You’re not alone this Christmas
This Christmas, ICON’s message is clear: enjoy the sparkle, lower the pressure, and remember that when babies cry, you can cope — and help is always available.
For more information and support for parents and carers, visit www.iconcope.org
